Author: Dafina Lovelace

Stay Hydrated My Friends

Stay Hydrated my friends


I am, in my own way, trying to figure out the route to true hydration. I have struggled with the navigating my way through head hunger and physical hunger.


Head Hunger, in its simplest form is when you just ate but for some reason, you could still eat something else. It is when you are physically satiated and your body isn’t craving food but for some reason (whether your cubemate opens a bag of chips, you smell pizza or something triggers your senses) you want to eat something. Head hunger is the devil and it is the very downfall of many diet attempts.


Physical Hunger is when you feel yourself getting hungry after a significant amount of time has passed, since your last meal. It is hard to concentrate, time may feel like it is moving slower and you might be tripping your way into the HANGRY zone.


Now what does this have to do with being hydrated? I’ll tell you why. Most of the time you AREN’T hungry. What is happening, when you are experiencing head hunger……your body is actually telling you that you are thirsty. I know right! Let that sink in for just a sec.

Your body doesn’t necessarily have another line of communication to tell you that it is thirsty. Yeah, maybe your throat will get dry but ultimately, your body will soak up as much moisture as it can. You may not know this but your body is sucking the moisture out of the grapes that you are eating, the sandwiches, etc. You may wonder why you are eating more than usual? Welp, that is the culprit. Since you aren’t drinking enough water, your body is trying to get water from any source that it can.


Here are a few things to look for when it comes to dehydration:

  1. Your breath stinks?! Yup. when your mouth is dry, it becomes a host to many problems… bacteria!
  2. Stank Attitude. You may not know why but you are thinking of punching someone in the face and it could be for the dumbest reason. Something like they didn’t say hey to you, on their way to the breakroom. Or your husband put the remote on his side of the bed, knowing that he goes to sleep before you.
  3. You are backed all the way up. When your body doesn’t have enough moisture, especially your colon, it is going to try to retain as much water as it can. If your colon cannot get the moisture, it can’t move what it needs to move (like your bowels).
  4. You be crampin like a mother. I know that is weird to think that your body cramps when it doesn’t have enough water and you are dehydrated. You are lacking the magnesium, potassium and the electrolytes that help make your body function normally. Imagine getting a charley horse all over your body and the perfect remedy is just 8 glasses a day. Crazy right?


This list goes on to dig deeper into dehydration BUT let’s focus on preventative care. Water or Infused water is the way to get hydrated. I know you were thinking that I would bring up powerade or gatorade. I would because they have an excellent  source of electrolytes. I am not going to add them to the list because of SUGAR.


Here is an awesome list of how you can really get the best stuff from being hydrated.

  1. Your skin will thank you. It won’t look so dry and ashy. You can actually plump up your skin and glow (literally) from within
  2. You can go to bathroom without force or tears. With proper water flow, you are able to give your colon a break and you can poo as much as you want to. Yup! You can thank me later.
  3. You lessen the amount of UTIs in your future. You are literally flushing away the bacteria and other nasty stuff that is inside of you. Peeing more gets rid of that stuff and you aren’t sidelined and can enjoy more intimate time with your partner.
  4. You won’t feel as bloated. Now this is a tricky one because there are other reasons why you are bloated but drinking more water helps get rid of excess fluid. The fluid build-up is what causes feeling and being bloated. Drinking more water takes care of that and you won’t have to worry about fitting into those pants on certain days. You can just slide into your favorite jeans and keep it truckin.
  5. Your overall wellness will be better. I have heard that some people feel like they are a different person when they drink more water. They believe that their attitude improves and they are in better spirits. Think about it. We are a source of energy. Water releases toxins from your body. Imagine getting a really dope massage. What is the first thing your massage therapist tells you? She/he will say to drink water. If they are worth their salt, they will have some for you, after your session is done.


Here are some fun ways to level with your water intake, especially if you hate drinking water.

  1. Get fun water bottles.
    1. Infused water bottles are the cat’s pajamas. I am telling you. I have 2 different bottles. One from target and the other from God knows where. I use them because they are super cute but I get to enjoy fruit at any time. The best part is that I don’t have to worry about the calorie intake as much or at all.
    2. Check out these infused water bottles and tell me what you think:


    1. Mess in A bottle
    2. Infused water PITCHER!!!! Woo hoo. This will save so many trips and fruit :Infused water pitcher in the house
    3. Lastly…….. When you just want to get your daily water intake out of the way, try a 3 liter water bottle. I found one on amazon. It comes in cool colors and a handle so you can tote it anywhere you like (even the bathroom).

3 liter water bottle


**** I forgot to add tea. It is a great source of  water intake and since it tastes so good. *****


Now that you have a good idea as to how to get started. Listen to your body. If you just ate and 2 hours have passed. If your stomach is growling and you are thinking you should grab a snack, listen to your mom for a change and drink some water first!


You probably aren’t hungry, just thirsty. Give it about 45 minutes and check-in with yourself to see if the hunger is still there. It probably won’t be and you just saved yourself unnecessary calories.


Comment below and let me know what kind of bottles you use to remain hydrated. Your input is important!



What Kind of Do Over Do you Want in 2017?

Don’t eat that! Don’t touch your face! Don’t call him back! Don’t, Don’t Don’t!!!!! What happened? all of last year, you did all the the things that either you told yourself you aren’t going to do OR other’s told you not to do it. It’s that very hyper focused, dudley do- right thought patterns, that send you to the moon.

You know exactly what I’m talking about. In my case, it was telling myself that I am not going to eat chips and I am going to exercise 4 -5 days a week. I told myself that I am going to read my bible more and curse less. I am going to call my friends more and be on social media, less. I made so many promises to get up in the morning and walk more; when I leave work, I was going straight to the gym. Over time, those good intentions, paved their way to me sitting on the couch. I sit on my couch, wishing my husband would go take a shower so I can eat another handful of chips. I would go on autopilot and my reality with come back into focus, after I have fallen asleep on the couch.

When I thought I was pregnant and found I wasn’t, I definitely fell back into old ways. I was hurting and I just stopped. I stopped working on myself and going after what I wanted. I turned to my couch like a fond- old memory and wrapped myself in the blanket of my dreams and wishes. I just stopped.


After I spent an entire year losing weight, it stopped and my weight gain began. I didn’t gain all of the weight I lost (for the 100th time), but it was noticeable to me and a few others. At the close of the year, I decided to get myself out of this funk and LIVE again. I want a do over! Don’t you? I did this the first time I was serious about losing weight and I am here again. Lets get after it!


I created 5 strategies to help jump start your good intentions and turn them into your reality.


  1. Don’t get rid of your social media vices. Just turn them into what you want to see. For example,  I deleted every IG page that had twerking, big bouncing curls, clothes I couldn’t afford and anything that made me feel insecure( except for issa, of course). Just because that instagrammer has 100k followers, doesn’t mean you should be 100k plus 1. If it is going to mess with your head, delete it. After you do that, replace that page with someone or something more positive. I did and my mind and heart feel so much better.
  2. Invest in a few books. invest in yourself and love the the things that go into your mind. I am currently reading a book that discusses habits. I realized that there are a few avenues I have to take, in order to create this illusive action.
  3. Learn your personality type. If you are the kind of person that needs to link up with others and have accountability partners, do it. If you keep trying to join groups and wonder why you never show up, maybe you should consider being the leader or lead yourself. Either way, learn who you are and what is right for you.
  4. Open your mouth. No matter how many times I fell, I had to share with my people, what I was feeling. Since I am an emotional eater, I have to combat that with talking. I realized that not everyone wants to hear my mess BUT the ones that love me…… do. Once I was able to get things off of my chest, I was able to see the forest for the trees.
  5. GOD-GOD-GOD. I believe that when I talk to GOD, he listens. When I do read my bible, I am reminded that there are people that are much worse off than I am and they started over. If you ever wanted a do over , why not start where a do over is never out of style.

What are some things you wish you could get a do over for and when are you going start over? I chose today!


Remember to stay perfectly perched

Ten Ten

Pick your friends like you pick your fruit

Some connections are made over drinks or bathroom breaks. For women, it is easy to connect, almost anywhere. My connection came from a friend at work; we talked about everything! He would tell me abut his wife and how ah-mazing she is. He spoke of the pain they experienced, after suffering through miscarriages and then the beauty of giving birth to baby girl. I prayed for him and his family, after learning that the baby was born a premie and was in the hospital. This baby has grown up to be beautiful but I know that through her parent’s she is going to walk through fire and she is going to tell everyone about how God is so good

Every time my bud would pass by and we would chat, it would circle back to his wife (naturally) and how great of a photographer she was back in GHANA. He mentioned that she had an Instagram page and grew a following & Blog. He mentioned that I should reach out to her, for a session. Since I was dabbling with a few ideas, I did.

Shooting with Dana was like having conversations with a friend. We talked about EVERYTHING; our love for our husbands, our hurts and our dreams. At the time, our shoot was for a business that I was starting. I was going to be a life coach and help women learn to forgive their bodies and create this life they were promised. I told her that I didn’t know what I was doing and the idea was fresh.Dana and I chatted for moments on that and THEN she stopped me.

She stopped me and said that I should start a blog and put my images on Instagram. she said that I need to share my story because there are women out there that feel how I felt. They needed me as much as I needed to be heard. I thought she was crazy. I felt stuck but inside of me were dreams and missions that were never experienced, because I never tried. I never tried because I was afraid. After talking to Dana, she made me feel like I could fly and that anything was possible, with the right direction.

After our shoot, I waited a few days for the pictures to come. I just knew that the way she made me feel is the way I would look . I opened the images and cried. I hated everyone of them. I even told her. I focused so much on my flaws. My rolls, spotty legs, breakouts, lumps and bumps. I hated seeing me. I didn’t see ME, the way she saw ME or how I felt, in the moment. I was so disappointed.I wasn’t disappointed with her but with me. I couldn’t believe what I was doing to me.That night, I reviewed the images over and over and over again. I began to look at the pictures from the experiences I had with her. I remember when we talk about love and travel. we talked about insecurities. we laughed a lot. we met strangers and created a story, behind it. I remember how she made me feel safe posing and when my hair disagreed with the wind, she brushed it back

( like a mom taking a picture of her kid on the first day of school).

we created moments together and she helped me own IT. I enjoyed shooting with her and now, when I look back, I cannot believe I shot my first shoot. I really can’t believe that I shot my first shoot with Dana, the most incredible mother, wife, blogger of LIVE BEAUTIFUL MAMA! You never know who is going to be in your life and for what reason. I do know that she was put in my life to gently remind me of what I have hidden. I had to thank her. I needed someone strong to put me in the right direction and for that, I am forever grateful. That shoot helped me open my heart to things I would have never acknowledged. When I stopped looking at a shoot for how it made me look BUT how I could make someone feel……it was a game changer.

Thank you Dana with LIVE BEAUTIFUL MAMA Because you are living life beautifully….. mama! 🙂
Be sure to follow her on iG see her visual storytelling, of being a wife-mother- photographer: livebeautifulmama and her professional photo page on IG : Danasferrerphoto

Remember to always stay Perfectly Perched
Ten Ten